I get so lost in daydream that I have to ask myself if I’m even awake. I may as well be sleep walking. Sometimes it’s a scary world, that place in my skull; other times, it’s exactly where I need to be. What it is always, though, is therapy. Allow me to explain.
“The only thing worse then starting something and failing…is not starting something.”
First of all, what is “maladaptive daydreaming”? Well I’m glad you asked. I only just discovered the term, but to be brief, it is an excessive amount of daydreaming that interferes with one’s personal life. People with a Fantasy Prone Personality tend to be much more susceptible. These are people with overactive imaginations, who spend day and night trapped in the infinite confines of their own imaginary world…like me! 🙂
Yes, this is still a post about chasing dreams–I’m just laying some groundwork here.
Now, surely I’m not the only one who feels like life isn’t enough…like it gets a little boring…Am I? Hell, maybe I am. Regardless, I feel like that a bit too often. Sitting alone between 4 walls, I drown in thoughts. Unless I let myself float. I drift at the mercy of the current–drift into the various rooms of my “memory palace,” as Dr. Hannibal Lecter so elegantly described it. And which room do I frequent most often? They’re the rooms still under construction. They’re the rooms that are mainly wooden beams and copper pipes. Maybe there’s not much there now, but I know the blueprints. When I close my eyes, I can see the paint on the walls and precisely where the windows will go, because these are the rooms that house my dreams.
At the beginning of the post, I said this place is a therapy for me. How? Because when I start feeling like life isn’t enough, it’s these rooms that I retreat to in order to find hope. They are the calm in the desert of my confusion and everything that keeps me looking forward. Sometimes all we have are our dreams–but sometimes we can lose sight of them, in all the dark that clouds our view. If you’ve lost sight of yours, then maybe I can help you to see them more clearly.
- Layout the blueprints.
Dreams aren’t reached overnight. Well–some are. But you need a plan, a course of action. A path from point A to B. Even if you only start with baby steps, at least you start.
- Don’t always share your dreams.
It may sound weird, but don’t always indulge in that urge to shout your goals from the rooftops–keep them to yourself. I read somewhere that if you’re writing a book and tell people about it, that it’ll provide a sense of satisfaction similar to if you’d actually finished the book…even though you haven’t. See the problem there? Moving on.
- Stop making excuses.
For the love of Christ, PLEASE! People act like they’re going to live forever. News flash: you’re not. Stop being lazy, stop procrastinating, and do what you know needs to be done.
- Instead, make sacrifices.
See what I did there? Ahem…If I had a penny for every time I heard someone say, “I don’t have enough time,” I’d have…well, probably just 50 cents. But still, that’s too much. People have time and they know it. All they have to do is make some sacrifices. You watch the news every morning for an hour? Stop. You go to lunch everyday with your girlfriend? Stop. (Here comes the tough one) You go out to party for hours every weekend? Stop. Or at least cut back. Even if you only give yourself an hour everyday to chase your dream, that’s better than nothing (though you’re slacking hard by my standards.)
“You will never find time for anything–you have to make it.”
- Shoot for the moon.
Everyone’s heard this one. Shoot for the moon. Even if you don’t hit it, you’ll land amongst the stars. Go hard or go home. I feel like my father. Every time I go to the gym with him he won’t let me get off the treadmill till I hit my goal. All of his principles have made me look at things differently. Life doesn’t give you enough time to slack.
- Know that failure is inevitable.
It happens. Everyone fails. You fall down, you get back up. Only the weak stay down. (Seriously, is my dad typing this?) Even Stephen King still gets rejections. Honestly, if you give up, then you don’t deserve whatever it is you’re going after.
- Most importantly, believe.
Believe harder than you ever have. Believe like you know beyond doubt. Breath into your dreams with every breath in your lungs. It’s the only way they have even a remote chance to fly.
“It is better to risk starving to death than surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what’s left?”
Good luck to everyone, and thanks for reading. 🙂